At one point you’ll suffer loss of some kind. As a result, it’s perfectly normal to lose momentum on the path to wherever it is that you are going when you are faced with pain or loss. Falling into the trap of focusing on life’s negatives instead of the positives isn’t going to do you any good in the long run.
You’ll hear me say this time and time again as we get to know each other well. It’s okay to visit your pain, in fact it’s necessary, but don’t unpack your shit and live there! Whatever you do stay focused.
It is, therefore, a good idea to remind yourself of how many things are going right in your life on the worst of days and do what it takes to get back on track. Of course, individuals who are faced with setbacks of some sort aren’t the only ones who lose the focus needed to achieve their goals.
For most people, there are always too many things to do and not enough time to do them. It’s far too easy to get so sidetracked by the millions of everyday tasks that we end up doing half of one thing and then half of another instead of marking items off our to-do lists. The pervasiveness of technology has made it even easier than ever to get suckered into wasting time.
It also can cause people to lose perspective when they’re constantly bombarded with images of how perfect everyone else’s life is when compared to their own. There are also a lot of individuals that fear they will miss out on something important and hate to refuse to do something, no matter that they are already overbooked. The result is that these folks end up agreeing to participate in more activities than they have time and energy for.
This is precisely why you need to know what makes you happy and what you enjoy doing. You also need to know what provides you with enough energy to get through the day. Is sitting around mindlessly watching television and eating popcorn really achieving your goals? Does it help you recharge or is it draining you of energy?
What about when “just one or two episodes” ends up turning into a movie marathon that gobbles up your entire afternoon? If that’s the case, don’t be too hard on yourself. We’ve all been there. (And we probably have all encountered some really compelling television series that we couldn’t stop watching.) I binged on Ellen twice a day, six days a week.
But perhaps we need to stop and think before we mindlessly hit play on another episode. Is this really the most productive use of my time? Is there something else that I should be doing? Of course, it’s perfectly okay to relax once your work is done. Everyone deserves a break from time to time.
But you shouldn’t let what was supposed to be an hour long respite from housework turn into a monster that eats up large chunks of your time. After all, studies have shown that staying on task and staying focused is the best way to have a successful life.
If you don’t know what you value in life, the easiest way to figure out is to determine how you want to be remembered when you die. Is what you’re currently doing contributing the legacy that you want to leave behind you? If not, ditch it and move on with your life. Don’t think that your dreams can’t come true.
Figure out a plan of action and keep moving ahead to your next most viable step. Yes, there will be setbacks aplenty but there will be rewards too if you persevere. Even if you don’t fully succeed, at least you will know that you did more than just dream things up. You also tried to make them real.
Just keep in mind that the constant multitasking that most people do is probably not to your benefit. After all, it’s always a good idea to focus on doing one thing at a time and doing it well. This typically doesn’t apply to things like popping dinner in the oven and then running a load of laundry while it bakes, even if that can sometimes have disastrous consequences of its own.
This is about constantly checking your phone to the point that your whole family has eaten an entire meal without even saying hello to one another. It’s also about ignoring work related task that you need to do in favor of shopping for new items that you might not be able to afford. This is more likely to be true if you lose your job because you didn’t turn in your assignments on time.
You obviously have to know what’s going on around you in order to approach it with a sense of clarity. There’s a reason people are no longer allowed to text and drive. However, this hasn’t stopped people from walking, texting, and running into things in the process. It is very easy to miss the important things in life due to the constant noise of everything going on around us.
The best way to avoid this is to take breaks from electronic devices and other sources of distraction. Introverts might prefer to go for walks outside or write in a diary, while extroverts might prefer to engage in real conversations with their loved ones. Doing these things will enable us to recharge themselves and direct our focus to what’s really important.
However, there are some other things that you can do to help yourself avoid distractions. When you get online, it’s a good idea to only open as many tabs as you need and shut them immediately after you finish using them. You can switch your phone to silent if you aren’t expecting an important call or message to avoid being disturbed while you work.
It’s also a good idea to take out your earphones. This allows you to pay attention to the people you are with or the task at hand rather than your electronic devices. And definitely don’t walk and text. This will help you focus on what you’re doing and where you’re going, not only on your daily rounds but also in your life. Who knows? You just might get there unscathed.
The bottom line is that to move forward on the path to a new happiness you have to focus on good. It will take some longer then others and it’s important to keep in mind that there is no wrong or right way to follow your path, we’re all different. Be gentle with yourself, make sure you do something fun, stay focused on your goals, and before you know it you’ll find the happiness that you’ve been missing.
My one desire is for you to be happy and if you are ready to work toward that goal I’d love to speak to you about ways we can work together to achieve that. Book in a discovery call and let’s help you become the happiest person you know!